We Understand
Are you worried you’re watching too much porn? Are you spending hours a day in online chat rooms? Are you paying for sex and lying to your partner about where the money is going? You might be struggling with compulsive or out-of-control sexual behavior. If you have a partner, you’re either terrified about what will happen if they discover the truth, or your relationship has already been turned upside down by a recent discovery.
It’s Complicated
If you’re single, you feel trapped by your obsession with sex and can’t imagine ever having an honest, healthy relationship. We know you’re feeling scared and overwhelmed about what to do next. You’ve probably already labeled yourself as a porn or sex addict, and are drowning in shame and embarrassment about your problem. If this sounds like you, we’re glad you’re here. You’ve found a supportive team who can help.
How We Help
At The Center for Couples & Sex Therapy, we’re trained in working with clients experiencing Out-of-Control Sexual Behavior (OCSB).
We do not approach OCSB through a porn addiction or sex addiction lens, and we do not prescribe twelve-step programs as part of the recovery process. Healthy sexuality is a core part of your humanity, and we do not find that abstaining from sexual thoughts and experiences is a treatment route that leads to healing and wholeness for our clients. We will help you create contracts to clarify your sexual boundaries, but we won’t insist on the complete sexual abstinence model that many “Certified Sex Addiction Therapists” prescribe.
We believe there’s a reason your sexual behaviors have become secretive, compulsive, and out-of-control. We also know that these behaviors are inhibiting your ability to lead a healthy, well-balanced life. Using a sex-positive lens, our therapists can help you discover the root cause of your compulsive sexual behaviors so that you can gain control over your sexual impulses and desires. If you have any questions about our approach, please schedule a consultation here.
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Before Therapy
After Therapy
I think I’m addicted to porn. I spend a lot of time watching it on my phone and computer. It’s starting to negatively impact my performance at work, and I’m scared that my partner will leave me if they find out.
I understand why I’ve developed an unhealthy relationship with porn. I’ve clarified my personal beliefs and boundaries, and finally feel totally in control of my sexual behaviors.
I told my partner that I’ve been paying for sex with sex workers for several years. I don’t think I’ll ever forgive myself for doing this. I have no idea how to salvage my relationship.
I have committed to individual therapy and my partner is joining me for couples therapy. I have taken ownership of my actions and am committed to the healing process that lies ahead. My partner is still hurting, but I feel we are working through this together.
I’ve been in treatment with a “Sex Addiction Therapist” for over a year and attend regular Sex Addiction 12-Step group meetings, but it isn’t working. I don’t want to be abstinent from sex, and I don’t like the way the program makes me feel like I’m a broken person.
The sex-positive, Out-of-Control Sexual Behavior model was a much better fit for me. I finally have a realistic plan to recover from my compulsive sexual behaviors and believe that I can create a health, thriving erotic relationship with my partner.
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